How important are expectations about caring for parents after marriage?
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They matter because “supporting parents” can mean money, shared housing, daily care, frequent visits or responsibility during illness, and partners may imagine very different arrangements. Pakistan’s evidence on co-residence shows that living with a husband’s mother is common in some samples, while national household data cannot reduce care obligations to one joint-family percentage. A realistic discussion covers both sets of parents, siblings who share responsibility, privacy, budget, location and how care would change if a parent became dependent. Respectful care and unlimited availability are not the same commitment.
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Living with own or husband's mother in the household is associated with lower number of children: a cross-cultural analysis
Royal Society Open Science
Published 2017, using historical IPUMS census samples. Pakistan: 1973 census, 68,086 married women aged 15–34 living with a spouse; 41.21% lived with his mother. Not DHS or current newlywed data.Source checked:
View sourcePakistan Demographic and Health Survey 2017–18
National Institute of Population Studies and The DHS Program
National survey evidence for marriage timing, women, households and health indicators.View sourceRecognising and Reducing Women’s Unpaid Care Work in Pakistan
Pakistan Institute of Development Economics
Policy research summarizing women’s disproportionate non-market and care work in Pakistan.View source